Confessions of a former gym-phobe: No one is staring at you.
Let's be honest. The thought of setting foot in a gym can feel a lot like walking onto a stage where everyone's secretly judging your form, your outfit, or your questionable ability to operate the lat pulldown machine.
Or, we may think they’re looking at us, thinking “MAN, she’s let herself go!” (We’ve been there. Guess what? They aren’t thinking that - you aren’t that important;))
We've all pictured it, right?
Rows of perfectly sculpted humans, casually lifting weights the size of small cars, all while casting disapproving glances at your humble attempts to... well, not fall off the treadmill.
Good news: That mental movie playing in your head? It's a total blockbuster fantasy.
The reality is —-> Absolutely no one is staring at you. Seriously. Like, zero people.
Want to know what everyone is doing?
Staring at themselves: Most people are too busy admiring their own bicep pump in the mirror (totally valid, by the way) or meticulously checking their own form to even notice if you're doing a deadlift or attempting some new interpretive dance.
Staring at their phones: Scrolling, podcasting, texting – the gym is a prime location for catching up on screen time and taking thirst trap selfies in between sets.
Staring intensely at a wall: Deep in the zone, lost in their own workout rhythm, probably planning their next meal or debating the meaning of life while on the elliptical.
Staring confusedly at a machine: "Is this a chest press or a futuristic torture device? Let me just... try pulling this lever." (We've all been there.)
The Unexpected Secret of Gym People: They're actually... nice?!
Beyond the lack of judgment, here's another shocking revelation: Gym regulars are, by and large, incredibly helpful, encouraging, and supportive people.
Forgot how to adjust the squat rack?
Someone will often jump in before you even have to ask.
Need a spotter?
Chances are, a friendly giant (or not-so-giant, but equally strong and kind human) will volunteer.
Looking lost near the free weights? Someone might offer a quick tip or a nod of encouragement.
They've all been beginners.
They remember what it felt like. And frankly, they're probably just happy to see someone new investing in their health. It's less "bodybuilder vs. newbie" and more "fellow human trying to get stronger."
So, if you've been putting off hitting the gym because of that imaginary audience, it's time to reschedule your mental screening.
The only critic you're facing is yourself.
Go ahead, try that new machine. Wear whatever makes you feel comfortable. Lift that weight, no matter how small. Focus on your own progress, and embrace the fact that you're showing up for yourself. You'll likely find that the gym isn't a scary, judgmental arena, but rather a surprisingly supportive community of people all working towards their own versions of "stronger," "healthier," and "less confused by gym equipment."
What's one small step you can take to conquer your gym fears this week? Commit to it - we all were beginners at one point!